Male Sexual issues

It seems most males have a hidden fear about premature ejaculation. In fact, there are a lot of jokes about it and some movies portray it rather humorously.

All premature ejaculation really is, is an ejaculation occurring before a man desires it. Sometimes this happens during foreplay or early on during intercourse. Males worry since this can lead to a ?disappointing? sexual experience for them and their partner.

There tends to be a stigma surrounding premature ejaculation that says a man is not a man if this happens. This is largely untrue.

Reasons For Premature Ejaculation

A study was done in the early 1990’s to try to get to the root of the ejaculation problem. Research indicated that the pelvic muscles that surround the erectile bodies in the penis go hyperactive in men with premature ejaculation. This just means that for some reason, these muscles are working on overtime and arrive at climax a lot faster.

However, there are very few medical reasons that have been documented as causing premature ejaculation. Most causes revolve around the brain. Men who ejaculate prematurely tend to be stressed. Things such as stress, both a stress caused by wanting to please a partner and stress outside the bedroom, can lead to premature ejaculation. Feelings of frustration, guilt or anxiety during sex also are culprits.

Most of these problems, once addressed in the relationship, lead to less or no premature ejaculation.

Normal to Problem

Most males will experience premature ejaculation at some point in their lives. It’s not uncommon in males of all ages.

Younger males, teenagers, who are engaging in sexual activity for the first time will often have a premature ejaculation because of the excitement or new sensations. Even more experienced males will sometimes experience it after a time without having sex or for a completely random reason. Having sex in an unusual place or where you might be found out can be just enough stress to cause premature ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation becomes a problem when it becomes the norm. While it will normally go away, if it begins to effect your partner and love life, it is a problem. In that case, a doctor should be consulted. There are various techniques, therapies and drugs that can be used to help a male through chronic premature ejaculation.

Treatments for You

Let’s first bust some myths about how to handle a premature ejaculation. There are many ways that flat out will NOT work. They include:

getting drunk

using one or more condoms

concentrating on something other than sex while having sex

biting one’s cheek as a distraction

frequent masturbation

creams that numb the penis

drugs (such as tranquilizers)

There are techniques that do work, however:

While using TWO condoms is never, ever, ever a good idea, sometimes males find using a thicker condom better for longer sex because sensation can be dulled leading to longer, more fulfilling sex. Remember, condoms come in many shapes, sizes and thicknesses.

Another good method is the stop and start?. If a male feels he is going to ejaculate, he and his partner can stop and take a few moments to calm down, thus stopping the ejaculation. Once everything is back under control, things can start again.

Some men find if they lightly hold the shaft of their penis just below the head, it can slow the time until ejaculation. The hold needs to be firm enough to cause the male to lose part of his erection but not hard enough to hurt. The point is to allow the male to become aware of the sensations to better control them.

It’s always best to have an open view about sex. Sometimes, just talking with your partner can calm nerves. Letting them know your feelings and understanding their feelings is really the place to start. Even if premature ejaculation occurs, you can rest for a while and then return to sexual intercourse or other sexual activities.

It’s important to get to the bottom of your feelings with yourself. Are you feeling guilty about having sex? Did you have a bad sexual experience? Can you slow down and concentrate on the sensations and your partner? May be you have to enhance your stamina.

Never feel ashamed or afraid to talk about your fears with your partner or with your doctor. Sex, like all things, takes time, knowing and loving your partner and practice. Take the time to get to know yourself and your partner before engaging in sex; that will solve a LOT of problems long before they start and lead to a more lasting and fulfilling relationship.

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Viagra. Cialis. Levitra. You cannot turn on the television, drive down the freeway, or leaf through a magazine without seeing advertisements for these medications on male enhancement. Developed to help older men with erectile dysfunction so that they could continue to lead regular sex lives, these prescription drugs quickly gained miracle pill status. But like with many miracle drugs out today, Viagra and the others have crossed over and become recreational drugs that teenagers and young men use, whether they have any problems getting erections or not.

Erectile dysfunction medications work by increasing the blood flow to the penis, allowing it to become erect as it should. With inappropriate use, however, these drugs can lead to Priapsism, a prolonged erection lasting more than four hours that can end with permanent damage to the penis. Other health problems that can be caused by these drugs include headaches, upset stomachs, blurred vision, sensitivity to light, heart attacks, strokes, irregular heart beats, and even death.

Yet even with the risks involved, and even though they suffer no problems getting or maintaining an erection, teenage and college age boys are using Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra. Relatively easy to buy over the Internet or from personal sources, boys are finding the price of these Blue Diamonds (so called because of their color and shape) not restrictive and purchasing large amounts to share with friends. Large groups of friends and acquaintances will get together and take Viagra just to have a little fun.

What these boys are failing to realize is that Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra are serious medications and should not be used by anyone under the age of 18. They are intended to treat the symptoms of erectile dysfunction and are not sex hormones or aphrodisiacs. Though some doctors say that teens are for the most part safe if they use these drugs, there have been enough documented cases of serious illness in young men who have used Viagra that all boys should be aware of how dangerous it can be.

Taking Viagra and other erectile dysfunction drugs leads in many cases to high risk sexual behavior and increased chance of getting an STD, including HIV and AIDS. Boys and young men who take Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra tend to have more sex partners then those that do not take these drugs. They also can become so excited from the drug that they forget to protect themselves by using condoms or other contraceptives. And while gay and bisexual men are four times more likely to use these drugs recreationally, heterosexual men are using them as well and in ever growing numbers.

One of the most serious risks involved with teenagers and young men taking Viagra is them mixing it with other drugs, such as amphetamines, cocaine, and especially Ecstasy. Ecstasy (MDMA) is known to make many people very loving and affectionate, and want to have sex. But in the majority of males, Ecstasy blocks the ability to have an erection, so boys are turning to Viagra to help them out. This can cause serious blood pressure and heart issues when the stimulants in Ecstasy react with the chemicals in the erectile dysfunction drugs.

It is up to all young men to be responsible for their health and well being and be aware of what they are possibly doing to themselves when they try these drugs. Just because Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis are prescribed by doctors and advertised all over the media does not mean they are safe. They are intended for a certain purpose and when they are used for other things the results can be permanently damaging or even fatal.

There is a medical endemic, of major consequence, that has the potential to be cured in a few short years if funding for new technology is made available, and you need to be aware of the public health importance of this illness.

The Internet medical newsgroup, alt.support.prostate.prostatitis, and the Prostatitis Foundation, are very concerned about the fact that no research is being done by the National Institutes of Health and the Centers for Disease Control on prostatitis.

Prostatitis has been an unsolved endemic in the United States for two centuries. The magnitude of the problem is enormous. It has been estimated by the urologist, Thomas Stamey, that fifty percent of men will experience symptoms of prostatitis during their lifetimes, and the National Center for Health Statistics reported that of the visits of men to the doctor for urogenital problems, twenty-five percent were for prostatitis. The pathologist John E. McNeal found prostatitis in forty out of ninety-one men at random autopsies. At the University of Illinois, Professor of Urology, R. Sharifi, MD, believes that prostatitis is the most common disease of middle aged men.

Prostatitis afflicts men in their twenties and thirties (and all ages) and becomes a lifelong disability, with significant medical costs, that because of the longevity of the disease rise to ridiculous proportions. It is the most widely occurring prostate disease. Prostatitis is a disease of the married monogamous male as well as priests and monks. One theory being that reflux of bacterial strains that are usually normal flora occurs in such cases. Prostatitis research will help to solve the related problems of sexually transmitted diseases, male infertility, female pelvic inflammatory disease (prostatitis is the male equivalent of pelvic inflammatory disease), female vaginosis (it is theorized that the prostate may be the carrier of organisms that cause female vaginosis), male sexual dysfunction, and has pertinence to benign prostatic hypertrophy (twenty-one percent of prostates are infected at TransUrethral Resection of the Prostate with only superficial culturing being done), and prostatitis research has pertinence to prostate cancer, with both prostatitis and cancer occurring in the same anatomic location in the prostate gland–prostatitis perhaps triggering cancer.

Further statistics are difficult to obtain as no serious research effort is underway in the United States to conquer prostatitis despite the known high prevalence of the disease to those working in the fields of urology, pathology, infectious disease, and infertility.

Prof. Dr. LJ. Denis of the International Consultation of Urological Diseases (in official relation to the World Health Organization) writes in a letter of May 10, 1995: “I am afraid that nobody keeps statistics on prostatitis. . . .”

Apparently, prostatitis has been overlooked because it does not kill people and because it is a “shame disease” where those afflicted are unable to talk about it, yet it is perhaps the most curable, and preventative measure for all three of the prostatic afflictions: prostatitis, benign prostatic hypertrophy, and cancer.